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Friday, February 8th, 2008
10:56 am
Peaces of Change
Okay, gimme a min to be a hypocrite here. Since we all loves those.

I hate it when when I got to people's blogs or communities and all you see are "lyykkee gO rEaD mY nEw bLog!!!11!!!!!!!!!!1!"

but really.

a) my first post EVERR! woot.
b) an attempt at a mini revolution movement
c) my birthday?

okay c was a lie. but still.

I'm interested in what YOU guys have to say and if YOU can sell me your new blog entry, i would more than love to check it out.

So c'mon. Take a whomping five minutes to read and hey, maybe even respond.

Thanks a million and twenty nine. You guys are fawsome.


Current Mood: ecstatic
Saturday, February 17th, 2007
2:55 pm
Tuesday, March 28th, 2006
9:07 am
Free iPod (not spam, i swear)
Hi everyone. I know I don't post to this community very often, but this is pretty cool. I found this site, http://ipods.freepay.com/?r=28893614, where you can get a free iPod. All you have to do is register for one of the free available services, refer five other people, and you'll get a free ipod nano or ipod video.

Don't worry, I'm not some crazy spammer or part of any "congo line", but this is the real deal. I did some research, and I found this two articles: http://www.geek.com/news/geeknews/2004Aug/gee20040819026544.htm and http://www3.netmart.com/free-ipod.htm. Both of the articles say that this particular site has been around for a while, and actually is legit.

If you guys are interested, it's pretty easy. Just register on the site, then choose one of the offered free trials (I would personally suggest the RealArcade trial, because Real/RealPlayer is an authentic and reliable company/program. Not only is it free, but I immediately ended my trial after beginning it). After that, just get five other people to register and you should get an iPod.

Thanks for reading my post. Bye everyone.
Saturday, February 25th, 2006
6:06 pm
The wascally wabbit leaves the cockpit of the space ship. He pleads with the co-pilot, "Whatever you do, DON'T PUSH THIS BUTTON!". As the bunny walks away, the button is pushed. Alarms and sirens ring out. The bunny and co-pilot are thrust against the wall of the ship as it spirals toward Earth.

Here are some thoughts about buttons:

-It is tempting to push a button.
-Some buttons are more tempting than others.
-Sometimes you don't know what will happen when you push a button.
-Whenever you are uncomfortable, there is a button somewhere nearby to tempt you.
-Some people are better at pushing buttons than others.
-There is usually a consequence for pushing a button.
-It is tempting to deny you pushed the button.
-The more familiar you are with a person, the more buttons seem to appear.
-Some buttons are off limits.
-Pushing buttons can make you feel temporarily powerful.
-Once in a great while, buttons are bumped instead of pushed.
-We usually have some sort of warning right before we are about to push a button
-Sometimes you can't repair the damage pushing a button can cause.
-It's easy to lose your cool when the button is pushed.
Tuesday, February 21st, 2006
7:15 pm
It was a Saturday at noon and the phone rings at Lisa's apartment. It was Joe on the phone, Lisa's boyfriend. He tells Lisa that he would like to hang out for a few minutes. Lisa agrees to meet him at a local coffee shop.

Lisa arrives at the scheduled time and sees Joe standing in line to get a drink. Lisa is a little disappointed because she feels Joe should have waited for her to arrive before he ordered. Lisa joins Joe in line, they order, and Joe pays for her coffee. Although Lisa thanks him, she can't help but think that he should have waited for her.

Lisa and Joe find a table and sit down. Just as they begin to talk, Joe's older brother Bob plops down with them and takes a slurp of Joe's drink. He cheerfully thanks Joe for the drink and joins the conversation. Lisa is irritated with Bob's intrusion and grows increasingly intolerant of Joe's brother. Whispering to Joe, she asks if they could go for a walk and possibly hang out with Bob some other time. Joe grabs Lisa's hand and asks Bob to excuse them for a moment.

"Lisa, I don't know what's going on here, but you seem to be upset. I thought it might be nice just to hang out for a while but not with this attitude. You seemed irritated from the time you arrived."

"Well, I was a little irritated. I got here and you were already in line. You didn't even wait for me to get here before you ordered. It felt awkward when you paid for my coffee because if I had walked in 2 minutes later, I would have bought my own. After we finally get a table, your brother just decides to join us. You didn't even say anything. I thought we were going to hang out, just us two, and I felt like you weren't even disappointed when he joined in on the conversation."

"Hey Lisa, I don't know what you were expecting, but I didn't say anything about us being alone. Secondly, Bob and I have been here for a half hour. I called you from his cell phone because he suggested it. About the being in line thing, Bob had already gotten me a drink so I was returning the favor. Maybe you didn't realize it, but Bob drove me here because my car is being repaired. Bob was nice enough to drive me here, wait until my car was fixed, and was even willing to hang out with his little brother and girlfriend. And to make matters worse, you've been rude to him. I think you owe us both an apology."

It is appropriate to have expectations at certain times. As managers, it is especially important to understand when to expect specific behaviors and how we should communicate our expectations, keeping in mind that when we are disappointed, it is usually based on an assumption or expectation that was never communicated. Our disappointments are typically of our own making.

In a loose sense, expectations come in all sorts of forms and types. Rules for example, are a type of expectation. Most adults understand by definition, that they are expected to follow rules. Most managers or companies write their rules down somewhere, usually in a company handbook or within a memo. There are normally consequences when rules are not followed. Another type of expectation is a goal. Goals are certainly not rules but, in a way, are expectations. When a team sets goals, there is usually a time line established and a set of actions defined and assigned to specific people or departments. Ideally, the team stays in communication with one another and they adapt their plan as needed, always keeping their objectives or goals in mind. They know the expectations and agree to them. Rules and goals work when everyone understands the objective or desired outcome. Rules are pretty simple. They can be accepted by most people pretty easily because most of us have been trained to "follow the rules" from the first day of preschool on. Meeting goals are pretty simple too, that is if everyone understands the objective, wants the same things, and the lines of communication stay open. Expectations in general are much the same. If all the parties involved understand that first, there is an expectation of some sort and secondly, that they are expected to do something or act in some specific way, it works out- but only if everyone wants the same thing.

So, for an expectation to be realistic:

a) All the parties involved must understand that the expectation exists
b) All the parties involved understand that the expectation requires that they are supposed to act in some specific way
c) All the parties involved agree that the expectation is what they want, no matter what their motive

Lets look at the case of Lisa, Joe, and his brother Bob again. Each time Lisa became disappointed, it was based on an assumption with an expectation attached that was not met. First, she assumed that Joe had called her from home or somewhere other than the coffee shop. She also assumed they were meeting alone. She was offended when Joe was in line as she arrived because she assumed he got there as she did. She also assumed that Joe drove to the coffee shop on his own and that Bob was an intruder at their table. This is a classic example of how we somethimes set ourselves up to be disappointed. In this case Lisa was completely responsible for her unhappiness. Joe and Bob did not understand that any expectations existed, they didn't realize that they were supposed to act in some specific way, and could not possibly have agree that they wanted what Lisa wanted- they had no way of even knowing the expectation existed in the first place.

Unfortunately, we can set ourselves up in much the same way at the office if we aren't aware of our assumptions. In the case of our character Lisa, is likely that she did not understand that she assumed anything at all. This is key- becoming aware of our natural tendency to assume things with people, places, or things we are familiar with. There is no reason to completely avoid assuming certain things- for example you might be safe to assume that the conference table and chairs will be in the meeting room tomorrow because they have always been there in the past, but it may not be smart to assume that your boss will be at a meeting you are presenting at when you have never given a presentation before. No precedent has been set so there is nothing to base the expectation on. You are familiar with your boss and you may be tempted to assume something about his character or management style that would lead you to believe he would attend your first presentation; but you cannot make that assumption. Your boss may be committed to other activities or may feel that it would be good for your confidence to go it on your own. There could be a million reasons he would not attend and no real reason he might; none other than your unreasonable assumption that he'll be there. Your boss doesn't attend and you are likely to become angry and hurt. And who is responsible for your pain? You are. No one else. If you behave badly as a result of your hurt, it only complicates things further.

We can't nor should we stop making assumptions completely, but the awareness that some expectations are rational while others are not can help us avoid feeling angry or hurt. It is human nature to feel that we "know" people or believe that we can predict how they may behave. And It can be argued that past behavior can predict future behavior- but not every time, no matter how well we know a person. When we are wrong about our assumptions, we get disappointed. The number of expectations we have on the people in the world will be exactly proportionate to the degree of happiness we experience. Think about Lisa, Joe, and Bob. I hope the story looks different now then it did when you first read it.

Julie Johnson- AH HAH!

PS : View my segment on Clear VS Muddy Communication
Sunday, November 6th, 2005
5:22 pm
Thursday, October 13th, 2005
9:55 pm
Thursday, August 18th, 2005
11:54 am
What is this!
Thursday, July 7th, 2005
10:53 pm
Tuesday, July 5th, 2005
12:31 pm
New Community-- Prayer For India!

Greetings one and all,

This community is being established for those who desire to pray for India, have a heart for India, who are Indian (living anywhere), are missionaries in India, or just want to check out what God is doing in that large region. The purpose of this community will be cultural exchange between regions of India (anything from Divali to Desi food recipes to religious/cultural study to Bollywood), understanding, keeping up with news and needs of India, and correspondences between all affiliated with India in some way.

I look forwards to seeing what God will accomplish as we all gather together with one purpose.
--- all welcome to join ---

++will be cross-posted++
Wednesday, June 15th, 2005
5:02 pm
Join music_download
This is another music downloading community because there aren't that many out there and most of those are closed already or dead. Basically, this is for sharing music with others. You can request music and recommend music. Requesting and uploading albums is acceptable. yay!
Sunday, May 29th, 2005
9:37 pm
trust me, it'll be cool
hey why dont you guys apply to lj community musical_mangle

its fun!
Saturday, May 21st, 2005
6:56 pm
im seriously going to leave this community no one updates at all
Thursday, May 12th, 2005
3:19 pm
Come on seriously you guys this community is NOT for advertising other communities if you havent realized.. so I would and Im sure others would appreciate it if you stopped.
Saturday, May 7th, 2005
6:38 pm
Don't want to be sterotyped? Join this community:

Wednesday, April 20th, 2005
9:39 pm
i tattooed myself.
anyone care?
4:19 pm
hmm alright yeah so guys whats going on seriously this community is just getting boring. SAY SOMETHING AT LEAST!

Current Mood: numb
Sunday, April 17th, 2005
9:10 pm
blank = never
- = kind of...
x = yes.

(x ) smoked a cigarette
(x) smoked a cigar
(x) made out with a member of the same sex
( ) crashed a friend's car
(x) stolen a car
(x) been in love
(x) been dumped
(x) shoplifted
( ) been fired
(x) been in a fist fight
(x) snuck out of your parent's house
( ++++++++++++) had feelings for someone who didnt have them back
(x) been arrested
( ) made out with a stranger
( -) gone on a blind date
(x) lied to a friend
(x) had a crush on a teacher
(x) skipped school
( ) slept with a co-worker
(x) watched someone die
(x) been to canada
( ) been to mexico
(x) been on a plane
( ) thrown up in a bar
(x) purposely set a part of yourself on fire
(x) eaten sushi
(x) been snowboarding
(xxxx) been moshing at a concert
(x) been in an abusive relationship
(x) taken painkillers
(xxxx) miss someone right now
(x) laid on your back & watched cloud shapes go by
(x) made a snow angel
(x) had a tea party
(x) flown a kite
(x) built a sand castle
(x) gone puddle jumping
(x) played dress up
(x) jumped into a pile of leaves
(x) gone sledding
(x) cheated while playing a game
(x) been lonely
(x) fallen asleep at school
( ) used a fake ID
(x) watched the sun set
(x) felt an earthquake
(x) touched a snake
(x) slept beneath the stars
(x) been tickled
(x) been robbed
(x) been misunderstood
(x) won a contest
(x) run a red light
(x) been suspended from school
( xxxx) been in a car accident
( ) had braces
(x) felt like an outcast
(xxx) eaten a whole pint of ice cream in one night
(x) had déjà vu
( ) danced in the moonlight in a wife beater and dragon shorts
(x) hated the way you look
(x) witnessed a crime
(xxx) pole danced
(x) squished barefoot through the mud
(x) been lost and shit
(x) been to the opposite side of the country
(x) swam in the ocean
(x) felt like dying
(x) cried yourself to sleep
(x) played cops & robbers
(x) recently colored with crayons/colored pencils/markers
(-) sung karaoke
(-) paid for a meal with only coins
(x) done something you told yourself you wouldn't
(x) made prank phone calls
(x) laughed until some kind of beverage came out of your nose
(x) caught a snowflake on your tongue
( ) been kissed in the rain
(x) written a letter to santa clause
(x) watched the sun set with someone you care about
(x) blown bubbles
( ) made a bonfire on the beach
( ) crashed a party
(x) gone rollerskating
(x) had a wish come true
(x) worn pearls
( ) jumped off a bridge
(x) ate dog/cat food
( ) told a complete stranger you loved them
(x) kissed a mirror
(x) sang in the shower
(x) had a dream that you married someone
(x) glued your hand to something
( ) got your tongue stuck to a flag pole-ski chairlift
( ) kissed a fish
(x) worn the opposite sex's clothes
( ) been a cheerleader
(x) sat on a roof top
(x) screamed at the top of your lungs
(-) done a one-handed cartwheel
( ) talked on the phone for more than 6 hours
(x) stayed up all night
(-) didn't take a shower for a week
(x) climbed a tree
(x) had a tree house
(xxx) are scared to watch scary movies alone
( ) believe in ghosts
(x) gone streaking
(x) played ding-dong-ditch
(x) played chicken
(x) been pushed into a pool with all your clothes on
(x) been told you're hot by a complete stranger
(x) broken a bone
(x) been easily amused
( ) caught a fish & ate it
( ) made porn
(x) caught a butterfly
(x) laughed so hard you cried
(x) cried so hard you laughed
(x) mooned/flashed someone
(x) had someone moon/flash you
(x) cheated on a test
(xxx) have a britney spears CD
(x) forgotten someone's name
(x) slept naked
(x) braided someone's hair
(x) gone skinny dipping in a pool
( x) been kicked out of your house
(x) killed zombies last time there was a zombie apocalypse
Friday, April 15th, 2005
4:36 pm
What are 5 things you can NOT live without?

For me it would be...

5.) Lipton Lemon Ice Tea

4.) tortilla chips / Peanut butter and saltine crackers


2.) computer~ (aim/livejournal/areslite downloaded music/minesweeper)

1.) and my friends of course!

Whoo hoo for that

Current Mood: blah.
Thursday, April 14th, 2005
1:32 pm
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